Few, if any, folks will be the slightest bit interested in how I came to lead the divorce recovery group at my church for several years. The point is that I got to see and listen to a fair number of folks going through some ugly times.
Ugly pretty much goes with the territory: loss of the dream, loss of the love, the companionship. Loss of the positives.
“I was accepted. Everything I did was right and pleasing, I was handsome/beautiful. I was IT.
“But no more.”
Morning in America! The Great Communicator. Teflon President I. “Love us, and we’ll let keep ‘your’ money. Love us, and everything will be just perfect. Government is the problem, free enterprise is the perfect solution.
“You’ll see. We promise. For better or worse? We’re the best. Those guys are the worst. What? We lied to you? We did this? We did that? They didn’t work? But, but, we’re always right.
From ‘Morning in America’ trough 4 lost years, 8 years of bickering and baseless accusations (well... he did have sex with that woman, the epitome of marital distress...) And 8 more years of “Bring it on; you’re scary, world, so we need to start swinging ....And..., anyone who doesn’t agree with everything we say is an enemy....”
To: “How can you say that? You love me! You won’t leave. You can’t leave....
“Don’t take your love away from me....
Come on baby, let’s start anew
‘Cause breaking up is hard to do....
“I am the power!!!!!”
Dr. Kubler-Ross taught us there are 5 stages of grief when we suffer a significant loss:
2008, people who vote told the Republican powers, the neo-conservatives, the espousal abusers, the cocky bastards: “It’s over.”
Denial .... Anger .... Bargaining .... In no fixed order and repeating patterns and out bursts.And overlaps: denial, anger - anger, denial .... A marriage gone bad.
Political Divorce: Ugly, Uglier, Ugliest ....